The article below is reprinted
in a slightly shortened version.
January 21,
2010
How to Find Your Sugar Daddy
Can SugarDaddyForMe.com
solve your man
AND money woes?
-Carrie Seim
Feeling
a little
cash poor and lovelorn? Then
click on over to SugarDaddyForMe.com,
a dating site
that promises
you the man – and
the bank account – of your
dreams.
The pitch
is to match young, attractive
women
who “want
to be taken care
of and treated like
a princess” with
busy, successful
men who want “to
pamper a special
someone”.
The
site’s
founder tells BettyConfidential
that his two million
members – self-appointed
Sugar Babies, Sugar
Daddies, Sugar Mommas,
Sugar Baby-Males
and Gay Sugar Daddies – feel
no
shame in cutting
to
the chase. Or to
the check.
“What's
wrong with admiring
and desiring a man
for his accomplishments
in life?” he
asks. “This
is
no different from
many marriages,
where the man has
a
successful career
and
takes care of his
woman and she takes
care of him in the
ways that she is
able to.”
(The site is equal-opportunity:
It also caters to
wealthy Sugar Mommas
looking for men
and women to spoil.)
The
Sugar Babies certainly
aren't bashful.
Their profile
pics are littered with
cleavage, thigh-highs
and
naughty schoolgirl
ensembles.
Testimonials gush
about the vacations
to
the Bahamas, designer
shopping sprees,
luxury cars – and,
oh yeah, true love – these
women
have found on SugarDaddyForMe.
Is this for real?
Or too trashy to
consider? And should
I be wasting my
time on boring coffee
dates when there
are Sugar Daddies
waiting to whisk
me off to St. Barts?
“Layla,” a
26-year-old massage
therapist from Kansas
City, tells BettyConfidential
she’s had
great
success on SugarDaddyForMe
landing
men who paid for
her pre-med classes,
vacations to Vegas
and New Orleans,
extravagant dinners
and expensive shopping
sprees.
Yet she doesn't
see herself as a
gold digger.
“I just
look at it as being
goal-oriented,” she
says. “I know
what I want and
I know who would
be best in the position
to get me there – and
it’s probably
not
a guy fresh out
of college.”
Most
of the men she’s met
through the site
are decades older
than she, but “it
wasn't
like I was pushing
them in a wheelchair
or anything.”
So what does she
offer in return
for all those tuition
payments and frequent-flyer
miles?
“I'm not
going to promise
my body for any
material gain,” she
insists,
adding that she
communicates her
position on sex
right off the bat.
Hold
up – the
guys give her all
that stuff and she
doesn't “give
it up” in
return?
“There are
things you can do
to show the person
you appreciate them,
other than just
lying down and having
sex,” she
says. Hmmm…we
can
think of a few.
Raven,
a 21-year-old actress
and “vitamin
consultant” from
Chicago,
is currently seeing
two men she met
on the site, who've
spoiled her with
shopping excursions
and
pricey suppers.
She
claims she’s
had great success
on the site – meeting
sports
stars, CEO's and
models.
Raven
says the site works
because both parties
share a mutual
understanding. “We
both know what we're
getting ourselves
into,” she
says. “No
one’s pretending
and
using someone for
their money.”
But
would men really
give up their cold
hard cash simply
to
finance “goal-driven” gals?
Will,
a 35-year-old attorney
and entrepreneur
based
in Washington,
D.C., says he finds
women
on SugarDaddyForMe
far
more attractive
than
those on traditional
dating
sites – and
far
more open to age
differences.
This
works well for
Will, who prefers
relationships
with much younger
women. “If
I met these women
in the real world,” he
says, “it
would have been
much less efficient,
taking weeks or
even months of ‘playing
the field.’”
Will
is currently dating
a “wonderful” young
lady
he met on the site.
“It allows
me to indulge in
my generous, protective,
nurturing side,” he
says. “Which
[she]
appreciates, of
course!”
Another
Sugar Daddy, an
anonymous 52-year-old
Silicon Valley
exec, is more cautious
about the ladies
he’s
met
on the site.
He says that while
he doesn't mind
spending money to
have fun with women,
he'd never go for
a monthly allowance-type
relationship and
would insist on
a pre-nup if marriage
were in the cards.
“I'm not
interested in dependent,
arm-candy-type women,” he
says. “I'm
interested
in feminine women
with inner strength.
If they happen to
value financial
independence, I
don't find that
to be a detriment.”
Neither do we,
my friend. Neither
do we.
Would
you date a “sugar daddy”?
Carrie
Seim, Betty's L.A.
Correspondent,
is a writer and
comedian
keeping it real
in L.A., New York
and @ carrieseim.com.
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