If you’re like most women, you unfortunately know all too well what it feels like to be taken for granted in a relationship. You also probably know that feeling can spell the beginning of the end if the sugar daddy you’re seeing doesn’t realize what he’s doing and turn things around.
One way to get that to happen is to make him realize how lucky he is to have you before it’s too late. Here’s a closer look at why situations like this happen in the first place, as well as what to do about it if it happens to you.
Why does this happen in relationships?
Almost no one purposefully takes their partner for granted. But it is something nearly everyone does from time to time without realizing it, especially when life gets busy or there’s a lot on the person’s mind. It’s when behavior like this becomes habitual that problems start to develop. There are reasons relationships stagnate; your sugar daddy taking you for granted is among the first steps in this common process.
Emotionally mature sugar babies and sugar daddies should be self-aware enough not only to treat their partners like priorities but to listen when people they love say they’re feeling neglected and overlooked. But a girl’s got to do something when her man just isn’t hearing her. Here are a few ideas.
Decide whether the relationship is worth it
Sometimes being taken for granted is a deal-breaker, and that’s as it should be. But sometimes, when a sugar baby really feels a relationship is worth fighting for, she knows it’s worth giving things one more good try.
So the first order of business is to figure out which of those two possibilities you’re working with. Is this latest bout of behavior just the newest insult in a long line of choices that show your guy doesn’t care? Or do you know in your heart that you’re just going through a rough patch and that things can probably be fixed?
Try to talk things out
The first order of business for any sugar baby who’s feeling taken for granted should always be to open up the lines of communication. Even if something looks like obvious or even deliberate behavior to you, your sugar daddy could be completely oblivious on his end.
So tell him you want to talk and ask when would be a good time. Then sit him down and be super honest about how you’ve been feeling. Listen to anything he has to say in return. Then start working on some solutions together. If that doesn’t do the trick, it’s time to try some solutions like the following.
Focus on you more often
Many women who feel taken for granted try to double down on the number of things they’re already doing for their guy, hoping doing more might make him more appreciative. But the thing is, someone who’s already not appreciating their sugar baby the way they should likely won’t even notice it if she ups her game.
Instead, make sure you’re focusing enough on you, because the chances are pretty good that you’re not. Stop waiting for your sugar daddy to see your worth and treat you like the princess you are, and start doing those things for yourself. Spoil yourself a little. Spend more time doing the things you love to do. Your confidence and sense of wellbeing will soar, possibly to the point where you need your sugar daddy’s approval a lot less.
Give him a chance to miss you
Even these days, so many women are still conditioned to “do it all” when it comes to making life easy and wonderful at home, and more than a few men are conditioned to expect it. So if you’re feeling taken for granted and attempts to talk to your sugar daddy about your feelings haven’t really changed things, it’s time to pull back a bit.
Stop doing so much for your sugar daddy, especially when it comes to going above and beyond whatever the two of you agreed you would do when you first began your relationship. Make your own goals your number one priority instead of perpetually being at your guy’s beck and call. Let him miss you a little and look forward to the time he gets to spend with you.
Stop making excuses for him
If things still haven’t improved at this point, it’s officially time to stop making excuses for your partner. Everyone makes mistakes or can go through a rough patch. But when bad behavior drags on over time and turns into a pattern, even after the person has been told they’re hurting you, it’s no longer an oversight. It’s a choice.
So if things have gotten to that point, don’t tolerate it. Cut your losses, get your life back, and find yourself a new sugar daddy who sees you for the queen that you are and treats you that way. You’ll be glad you did.