If you’re the type of sugar baby who’s been in her share of relationships over the years, then you don’t need to be told that new relationship doubts can be a downer. This can especially be the case when a brand new connection with a new sugar daddy is going unusually well.
On the one hand, things might be wonderful – blissful, even. But things have probably been wonderful in the past, too, only to completely unravel into a nightmare once the other person starts showing their true colors. So how can you tell the difference between a train wreck waiting to happen and a promising connection that deserves a real chance?
Is it really so wrong to have doubts?
If you’re the type of sugar baby who always doubts new connections, don’t be too hard on yourself. Doubts are normal, even healthy parts of being a human being. It’s all part of figuring out whether a particular situation, relationship, or person is really a good fit for your life.
And relationship doubts are likely to be present even when a relationship is going super well. A string of bad relationships can make you especially wary when things seem to be too good. The trick is learning to understand the difference between innocent but unfounded doubts and major red flags waving in the breeze.
Understand why you have your relationship doubts
If you find yourself doubting a sugar daddy you’re seeing and feeling jittery about your new relationship, it’s important to unpack where the doubts are coming from. Is it old insecurities or self-directed doubt bubbling up from within? Are you simply not used to being in a healthy relationship? Is there a part of you that might be afraid to commit at all?
Or are the relationship doubts you’re struggling with stemming from your sugar daddy’s side of things? Has he said or done anything to make you trust him less or worry about his viability as a long-term partner? Is there a practical reason why you’re having trouble picturing him as part of your future? Are you making common dating mistakes?
Don’t invalidate your needs and feelings
Society still has a funny way of trying to tell people what they are and aren’t allowed to value in their relationships. In particular, there’s a huge stigma attached to actually caring what your partner looks like, what they’re like in bed, or whether they’re financially stable. But the fact of the matter is, these things matter in relationships, and there’s nothing wrong with admitting that they matter to you.
So never ignore doubts about a relationship that are the result of a lack of chemistry, attraction, or security in your future together. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how nice a sugar daddy is or how good he looks on paper to other people you know. Life is way too short to spend it with someone you’re not truly into on a soul level.
Talk to your sugar daddy about your relationship doubts
One of the great things about sugar relationships versus other types of relationships is honesty and forthrightness aren’t taboos the way they are in so many traditional connections. The same goes for having actual expectations for a partner or a relationship.
So let’s say you’ve assessed your relationship doubts and determined they have nothing to do with your wonderful new sugar daddy. Let’s say you’ve also decided you really want the relationship to work out. Don’t be afraid to open up to your daddy about how you’ve been feeling, ask for his help in overcoming your doubts, and see what happens.
Take things one day at a time
Regardless of the impression all your favorite rom-coms might have given you, it’s OK not to see wedding bells, children, and a relationship that lasts forever the very first time you look into someone’s eyes. And, really, you don’t have to see those things in your future at all in order for a connection with a new sugar daddy to be worth having.
You’re the one in the driver’s seat when it comes to your life, including when it comes to love. That means it’s not only OK to take things one step at a time when it comes to letting a new sugar daddy into your life, but probably wise, as well. So take things one step at a time moving forward. Over time, you’ll gain more perspective and have a better idea how you see things playing out.
At the end of the day, there’s no reason to be ashamed of having relationship doubts, especially when you’ve just started dating someone. The important thing is to understand that there’s a big difference between doubts and legitimate issues that mean a relationship probably shouldn’t move forward. Pay attention to the issues, but don’t be afraid to ignore the doubts.