For a young woman with her entire life ahead of her, finding the right sugar daddy is a lot like finding the right thing to do for a living. Although some people are lucky enough to find a perfect match right off the bat, most will try a few different options on for size before they settle on a situation that really works for them.
It’s hard enough trying to figure out how you feel about a particular guy, but the whole situation becomes even trickier when you’re dating a chronically uncertain and indecisive man. How do you move forward with someone who’s not sure about much of anything, let alone your relationship?
Why are some men so indecisive?
Many sugar daddies are fairly decisive and authoritative. After all, they need to be. They’re often affluent, important people with the fate of large companies and many people riding on their decisions, and they wouldn’t get very far if they were but so plagued by indecision. However, there are always exceptions to every rule.
Sugar daddies are also prone to traits like perfectionism which can easily lead to issues like overthinking when the issue at hand is very important to them. A particular man could well be great at making professional or financial decisions but struggle to be equally decisive when it comes to his personal life.
Many people, sugar daddies included, are also working very hard to overcome negative childhood or social programming that may be keeping them from being as decisive as they otherwise could be. Everyone is different, so no two men will be dealing with the same cocktail of potential issues.
How do you know you’re dealing with an indecisive man?
Naturally, everyone has trouble making decisions sometimes, as nobody’s perfect. But no one should be so crippled by indecision that they’re downright wishy-washy, especially if it means leaving someone as important as their partner hanging in regards to the future. Here are some signs your guy might be indecisive about your relationship (or maybe just in general) to the point where it’s truly problematic.
He’s not interested in meeting your loved ones
It’s normal for relationships to move through several different stages of varying seriousness before anyone starts making promises about the rest of their life. But if a sugar daddy is feeling indecisive about the situation for whatever reason, it’s not uncommon for that natural progress to stall at some point.
For example, a daddy who’s having second thoughts or who just isn’t sure about his future with his sugar baby may be fine with moving in together only to balk at steps that involve other important people in your lives. Pay attention if he says he wants to be with you but has zero interest in meeting your loved ones (or introducing you to his).
He makes lots of empty promises
Two people in a relationship who are planning on spending the rest of their lives together should be able to take one another at their word. Yes, your sugar daddy is busy. Yes, you should be accommodating and understanding when his schedule gets hectic, or his professional life demands a lot of him. But his promises should still count for something.
At the end of the day, it’s not that hard to find the time to take someone out to dinner when you’ve promised them you would or to keep appointments and other commitments you’ve made. You know he’d do it for his clients and business colleagues. If he’s not doing it for you, that’s a sign he’s not yet sure you deserve the same level of commitment.
He comes across as super vague
Indecisive men who aren’t sure about their relationships or who don’t take them seriously enough may shut their partners out when they ought to be including them. They may act vague and secretive when asked about their plans. It may even be hard to get them to engage in small talk about what they did over a weekend you might have spent apart.
That’s a pretty big red flag that you’re dealing with an indecisive daddy. A sugar daddy who’s serious and sure about his sugar baby is more of an open book. After all, there’s really no reason not to be.
What should you do next?
Once you’re sure you’re dealing with an uncertain sugar daddy, it’s time to talk things out so you can get to the bottom of his indecisiveness together. If he loves you and truly wants to be with you, he’ll be willing to work on things. But if not, it may be time to cut your losses and move on.
Ultimately, the world is a big place with countless people in it. Many of those people will be incredible sugar daddies who don’t need to be convinced that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to them. Keep that in mind, and act accordingly.